My Life in brief
I am a father, son, friend, entrepreneur, leader and Christian gay man. I am blessed to have a loving family, generous friends and a powerful relationship with God. My family nurtured, loved and supported me through the many trials and tribulations of childhood and adolescence; creating me as the man I am today. My friends forced me to look honestly at who I am and allowed me to expand beyond who I knew myself to be, driving me to live a bigger life than I had planned for myself. And, God has led me to a place where I use His gifts to broaden the who I know myself to be and experience the miracle of opening myself up to others, allowing His grace the opportunity to expand.
I occasionally take a break for renewal, disconnection, reconnection and creation. It was during one of these times that I discovered my Life Purpose Message, Listening for the Voice of God Within.
My passion is fully generated through my faith, creativity and generosity. My creativity generates my life through Technicolor glimpses of what can be and creates the power that With Love...Anything is Possible. My circumstances are a constant reminder that life is a choice. Issues will occur, taking my focus off my higher purpose, but it is how I handle those situations that create the life in which I live. I truly believe that every challenge is an opportunity waiting to be fulfilled.
I am committed to making a difference in the world through using every tool at my disposal to empower the lost, searching and disenchanted. Through this commitment, I embraced God’s message and surrendered to His Will to write, God Speaks - A Dialogue.
I believe there are no coincidences, and as such, have found my special place where God manifests Himself in a very personal way. God uses all things (physical, spiritual or emotional) to share His presence every moment of every day.
As a man in his sixties, I resisted the path God requested that I take at the age of 16, and my results reflect that renunciation. I have a lot in common with Jonah and his resistance to God’s Will. I haven’t spent any time in a big fish, but I have dealt with the sin of pride. With a newly cleansed heart, God asked that I confess my weakness, so I may step past yesterday and move forward to a fulfilled tomorrow.
JONAH AND ME
I am the eldest of three born in Oklahoma City, OK in 1957. I am a part of a large, gregarious family split between Oklahoma and Texas. I was raised Nazarene and I have intuitive gifts that have been growing inside of me since I was a child. I knew from a very young age that my journey had a specific destination.
I lived in Oklahoma until I was eight and then our family of five moved to Japan. We moved three times while there and returned to the States three years later. We moved to Northern Virginia, just outside of Washington, DC, and we began a whole new life. I was sixteen the first time I heard the Voice of God asking me to surrender to His will and follow Him.
Now dealing with a voice, I am also plagued with intuitive gifts, and I am gay. Whew. My teen years were a roller-coaster ride to self-discovery.
As a child, I knew that I wanted to be a father. I met my wife in 1982, and she and I started as good friends. We told each other everything. There were no secrets. When we married we did so with full disclosure. Unfortunately, she had one secret that she divulged on our honeymoon. It changed everything, and I focused on my reason for getting married.
Josh was born in October the next year and Jordan followed two years later to the day. After a tumultuous relationship, Sarah and I divorced, and I took custody of the boys with minimal disagreement. The boys and I had to change every aspect of our life and we moved back home with my parents until I could figure out what to do. It took a few months, but I was hired as a government contractor. This job opened many opportunities I thought closed while I was married.
That voice I'd heard at sixteen returned in 1991. This time there was a purpose in the message. I heard the voice again in 1993 and it was during this interaction that He spoke audibly. I was asked to write a book. In 1995, the boys and I took a six-week journey across the country, visiting family and going to every amusement park in our path. In 1997, I fell in love with Mike. I had loved before him, but I had never loved completely until we met. Because we were human beings, we made mistakes and our love affair ended ten months later. This is my biggest regret.
In 2000, I attended the Landmark Forum and that one choice changed everything. Following that course, I took others, and within three years, I was part of the leadership team for the North America Team, Management, and Leadership Program. I became the Global Statistician for the program in 2004.
With my sons grown, I chose to quit my job in 2006 and move to Oak Island, NC. I lived two blocks from the beach, and I wrote the book God asked me to write in 1993. I bounced around for a couple of years, experiencing magnificent successes and crushing defeats.
With a lack of direction, I moved from North Carolina to South Carolina, just outside of Hilton Head. I found a level of success, but it was fleeting as I surrounded myself with people who were holding me back and taking me away from my life purpose. I had an awakening in 2017 that I needed to return to my roots. My parents are in their late 80s, and I have always known that it was my fate to be with them in their later years, so I moved back to Northern Virginia.
Being back has allowed me to reconnect to my roots and spread my wings. I have an incredible life.
MORE ABOUT ME
After many years of self-exploration, I follow my Life Purpose: Listening for the Voice of God Within. I generate my life through being the source of my results. I am accountable for every aspect of my life (success or failure) and totally responsible for every action I take before and after the results. I perform a daily inventory of my life, examine how I generated the failures, examined what worked in the successes, and acknowledge my involvement in both.
First, if joy and abundance is missing in those around me, it is obviously missing in me. At the moment I recognize the missing elements, it becomes my responsibility is to see where I can put joy and abundance into my life and generate it into the world. I am committed to having joy and abundance in every aspect of my life, so altering my view to recognize the joy and abundance, alters the world view. The power of being accountable and responsible for the harmony and love around the world creates a space of possibility for joy and abundance for every human being on the planet.
Second, life is meant to be experienced fully and completely. If I find myself living deep inside my comfort zone, I am simply living inside of existence. To live fully and completely, I must take one action each day that takes me outside myself and puts me in the service of others. For example, if I have a need for money, job or relationship, I generate it for others and I will have all I want or need. Abundance is just what it says it is. There is an abundance of love, money, relationship, choices, success, etc. in the world, but it is only available when it is at the core of who you are. Abundance is not limited. Abundance does not generate just enough. Abundance takes what you want or need, fills the cup, and spills out the excess for all. Abundance is generated from the inside out. If you are waiting for abundance to arrive, you are living a reactive life and will find life dictating your choices. Find a way to be the source of abundance: give it away with a grateful heart, uncover where it is missing in your life, and you will suddenly have abundance everywhere in your life.
Last, I have the power to change my life in an instant. I am who I say I am. What I say about myself, others or situations is will create my life. If I have a negative attitude toward a person that attitude will be reflected back ten-fold. I intend to find a way to be thankful for all I have and love unconditionally. The power of having a fulfilled life comes to life in the next words you speak.
With this process in place, I am committed to fulfilling on the global life purpose which is having every person on the planet fulfilling on his or her personal life purpose. Imagine a world filled with fulfilled people.